How to Help Your Child Not Give Up
May 12th, 2009
Pre-framing is developing a pattern for success as a prerequisite to achieving it. Every step of a child’s development—from their first step to college—is pre-framing for the next stage of their life. You lay the framework for the next step. You take advantage of the present to ensure that your child has a successful future.
Pre-framing your children makes practicing a habit, whether it is martial arts, a musical instrument, a sport or an academic subject. Constant practice can only improve your child’s skill. You can’t expect your child to be good at something the first time they do it, nor can they be made to expect that of themselves. You can’t wait for success to fall into your lap. You have to earn tomorrow’s success today.
Jill Morris and her son Frankie know the value of practice as pre-framing for success. When Frankie didn’t want to go to class, Jill would ask why he doesn’t quit. She said, “His answer was always the same: ‘Mom, I can’t quit. I made a promise.’ He applies this to every challenge he faces and follows through until he succeeds.”
Reminding the child of the goal at every stage of the game is pre-framing and helps keep him or her stay motivated. Motivate your children to do the right things now so that their vision of the future becomes a reality. The more preparation, the smoother the sailing when future challenges show up.
Contributed by Solomon Brenner master instructor Action Karate and Author Black Belt Parenting “the art of raising your child for success”. Summer classes are forming now for info please call:
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Solomon Brenner
Master Instructor Action Karate
Author Black Belt Parenting “the art of raising your child for success”
